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I only have sex with my wife once a month since our child was born and it’s driving me crazy

DEAR DEIDRE: MY wife’s sex drive is virtually non-existent after having our son.

We’re both 29 and have been together for eight years.

I never have sex with my wife anymore

I was looking forward to being a dad. That bit’s fine, and I love our young son. But the sexual frustration is really getting me down.

I talk to my wife and she says things will change but they don’t. We have sex once a month at most and that isn’t enough for me.

I don’t make the first move any more as the rejection is much worse than no sex. I don’t know how much more I can take.

DEIDRE SAYS: Being a mum can be a real passion-killer

Does your wife get a chance to get out of that role and to remember the person who she used to be?

Can your little boy stay at the grandparents’? Take her out and give her space to feel sexy again.

My e-leaflet on Sex ­Problems After Childbirth will help, too.

Culled from The Sun

My view: Make sure you enjoy your marriage for two to three years before having kids, as being a mum can be a real passion-killer, if you really want to start a family immediately you just have to work your way around it.

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