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My wife has never initiated sex in our 40-year marriage — and I am at my wits’ end

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DEAR DEIDRE: I ASKED my wife out for dinner tonight and she told me to go on my own.

We’ve been married for 40 years and in all that time she has never initiated sex.

My wife has never initiated sex in the 40 years we've been married

She never shows me any real affection, though we have two grown-up kids and grandchildren she adores.

We’re both 59 and are financially secure with a lovely home but I feel like selling up and looking for a new relationship. I am not looking for a sexual marathon, just a warm relationship with a physical aspect too.

I am at my wits’ end, as whatever I say or do is wrong.

DEIDRE SAYS: I can understand your sexual and emotional frustration but be very wary of throwing away more than you realise for what is a fantasy at present.

I feel like finding a new relationship which will give me physical satisfaction

Your children and grandchildren would hate you hurting their lovely mum and grandma.

Tell your wife you both need to look afresh at this.

She sounds unhappy too. Was the sex you had not pleasurable enough for her?

Did she learn to be so critical from hearing her mum run down her dad?

My Relationship MOT e-leaflet could help you get the conversation started.

Source: The Sun

My opinion: Your wife is not interested in having sex with you anymore, as she just wants you as a good friend, as far as she's concerned it appears the romantic aspect of your relationship is done for good

What do you think?

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