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Husband loves watching me have sex with other people but I’m worried it’s gone too far

Dear Deidre

MY husband loves to watch other men having sex with me. I am afraid our sex life is becoming more about other people than us.

We have been together for 13 years and he was my first lover. He’s 34 and I am 33. We have three wonderful kids who are ten, eight and five.

She's worried her husband is making their sex life about other people

We’ve have had our ups and downs over the years. Both of us have been unfaithful. I had a fling with my boss until my husband came home early and caught us.

He had a fling with a girl and admitted it after I found hotel and meal receipts.

Both times we nearly split but somehow, neither of us could get by without the other and we managed to patch things up.

He started to fantasise about the idea of other men having sex with me, especially if they are bigger than him sexually.

This led us to having threesomes with guys he knows, where he would really get off on seeing them pleasure me. Last year I had sex with a man he found on the internet while he watched.